Don't lose your sanity: Make yourself a priority

Time.  It’s a battle we all struggle with, especially when we have other people depending on us.  It seems there is a million places we need to go every day and a million things that need to be done before noon.  Sometimes it seems we never get a break and the question on whether or not we can spread ourselves any thinner consumes our mind.  Do we deserve a break?  Probably.  Are we going to get one?  Probably not; at least not until that vacation we’ve all been dreaming about comes along.  Chances are, that right when you feel like you can’t handle anything else something new will be added to your plate.  So, what do you do?

Take some time to clear your head.  Whatever you need to do so that you can think logically, do it.  No one makes wise decisions in the midst of shit hitting the fan.  Go for a walk, take a nap, and scream into a pillow if you need to.  The first step is to release the negative feelings that are keeping you from taking positive action.

Pay attention to your plate.  You know the old saying that we can handle anything put in front of us?  I call that bullshit.  If you are continuously adding to your plate and not clearing anything from it, you will eventually crack.  People see us frantically living life, stressed to the max and don’t understand why their request of lasagna for dinner is enough to make us question our sanity. Remember, it’s okay to take a break sometimes.   If you don’t, the stress will build and you will eventually have a major breakdown.

Dance.  Physical exercise is great for lowering stress levels.  It lets off happy endorphin's in your body and allows your mind to focus beyond your daily struggles.  This is very important; this allows you to view the “whole picture” and not only your stressor.  Dance is a great form of exercise; it leaves you feeling confident and sexy.  Compare it to hitting a home run, not only are you scoring points for your team, you also boost your confidence by achieving the highest glory.  Everyone is proud of you and you are proud of yourself.  When placed in stressful situations the best medicine is to do things that remind you how important you are.

 

Don’t deny yourself “your time”.  When our plate is full, it is easy to make excuses why we don’t make time for ourselves.  Somehow we muster up the energy to take care of everyone else, and at the end of the day we feel there’s just not enough time or energy for ourselves.  Again, I call bullshit; there is time, you just have to make it a priority.  If you don’t do things that make you happy you will begin to resent taking care of others, and that is no way to live a happy and fulfilled life.  Reflect on the last week; you can’t convince me that there is not one night that you can’t take an hour for “you time”.

 

Take action.  It’s time to stop reading about improving yourself and start doing it.  Sign up for a DanceWithMiranda dance class and start experiencing a whole new way of exercise and self-improvement.  Get a friend to join you and come have a great time and make some new friends.  Trust me, you deserve it!

Classes start the first week in June.  For more information check dancebymiranda.com

A Strong woman is a Sexy woman

There are certain things in life that women want and need to feel good; appreciation, a sense of accomplishment and the feeling that our presence makes everything better.  We want to feel desirable to our significant others and needed by our families.  Life can be hard. We all go through tough times and many of us find ourselves stuck behind a wall; a wall that we build to keep pain and insecurities out.   With each rough patch of our life, this wall becomes higher and thicker.  In theory, it seems like a good idea. It is protecting us from the dangers on the other side, but in reality it is trapping us.  We can fight the battle on the other side of the wall, and we can win.  I don’t know about you, but I am tired of hiding.  I’m ready to be free of fear and live my life with no limitations.  I am loved, and I deserve to be loved, and so do you.  It’s days like this, when I have to remind myself that I am beautiful, inside and out, and I am loved.  We are strong.  We are women. We create, inspire, love, give, feel and bring so much happiness to others, that it’s time we inspire ourselves.

That’s right, it’s time to face the demons of your past with every ounce of fight in your body; and trust me it’s not easy, but it is worth it.  You’re going to stumble and doubt yourself at times, but you are strong, and you have the capability to learn from your mistakes and continue fighting.  The demons that haunt you don’t have that luxury of self-growth.  They are stuck in the past, and over the years they have lost their purpose and their strength has diminished.

Lean on your loved ones: If there was ever a time to let your loved ones into your head, it’s now.  Although it’s difficult to do the concept is simple: If you want your spouse to care and support you, you have to talk to them about what’s going on.  Sometimes I think the hardest thing to do is ask for a hug.  We expect people to know what we need, and that’s not fair to anyone including ourselves.  When you appreciate others, they will appreciate you.

Keep adding to you good memories:  Remember the feelings you had when you first fell in love?  They are a little short story tucked away in our memory catalog, and when we look back at them we can’t help but smile.  But over time relationships evolve, and this book is layered with new unorganized memories.  And for some reason, the fight over who forgot to put the milk away (that lasted for 5 minutes) seems more important than the weekend away from the kids.  It doesn’t have to be this way. That short story can become a novel by simply moving it to the front of your catalog and adding to it regularly.  Whether they are simple or elaborate, it should be a priority to create new, good memories.  Want some help cleaning the kitchen?  Try doing the dishes wearing nothing but underwear; it usually works for me, and it makes it so much more enjoyable doing it with my love. 

Always remember: You are strong.


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